I feel compelled to take a moment to recognize the unexpected death of Michael Jackson.
Yesterday we were all in the carpool line to pick up Sabrina from camp. Cory wanted to listen to music, but when the radio came on, it was on a news station, and we heard "the death of Michael Jackson."
Huh?
Now, there used to be a radio interviewer here in L.A. called Michael Jackson, probably in his 70s now, and my instant thought was, "It must be the radio guy. I mean, it can't be theMichael Jackson."
And Cory clearly felt the same way. "What? No. What?--" It just didn't make sense.
It reminded me of how I felt 12 years ago when I was sitting in a condo in Telluride, Colorado, hanging out while waiting to go to one of those late-night film festival parties that don't get going till 11:00, channel-surfing. We flipped past a station where we heard "with the death of Diana" -- and flipped past -- and froze. "Diana?" How many "Dianas" could there be whom someone would call by just their first name on the news?
I was stunned then, even though I'd never been a major Diana fan (though of course I'd seen the wedding, and she was always in the news). And I was stunned in the same way yesterday. I was never a major MJ fan. I drove past the dozens of fans hanging out across the street from the family house back in the '80s, but was never tempted to join them. I never went to a concert. I sang along with his songs on the radio, but I didn't rush out to buy every album as it came out.
So why does his death affect me at all?
Part of it is, I think, because there are so few people who have a worldwide impact, a cross-generational impact, and in hearing of his death, I know how many thousands, even millions, of people are feeling the loss. I think of our friend's son who, at about 8 years old, ripped up the dance floor at Family Camp a couple of years ago doing perfect Michael Jackson routines... and I wonder how he feels. I read the Facebook posts of people for whom MJ's music was the soundtrack of their lives... and I feel their loss with them. And I think this kind of communal loss is a good thing.
Part of it is also, I believe, that Michael Jackson didn't get the third act of his life which he so sorely needed. He lived through the downhill spiral of Act Two, the loss, the corruption, the pain... and never got that shot at redemption, that chance for recuperation and triumph, for victory out of the ashes, for which we all yearn. Just like Diana. That's part of what it means when we say someone died before their time.
Yes, there was the undeniable weirdness -- which got weirder and weirder over time. The desperate attempts to regain childhood. The molestations and rumors of molestations. The retreat from the real world in so many ways. The loss of self as seen through the grotesque mutilations of his own body.
And yet... there was the talent. That boy could sing. He could dance. And he did it in a way that captivated millions and millions of people around the world. I still remember how my jaw dropped when he performed "Billie Jean" (and the first moonwalk) on the Motown 25 special -- one of the few TV performances ever that jumped out from the screen and grabbed me.
How sad that MJ's immense talent got so dissipated along the tortured, twisted paths he chose to take his life down. That sadness keeps me from enjoying the snarky nastiness of so many of the "obituaries" popping up today. And that sadness is part of why I mourn him today. I mourn because he never got back on a good path. I mourn at the loss of the songs, the dances, the performances that might have been. And I mourn because so many others mourn. And that's a good enough reason.
In memory... Here is a clip you probably didn't see and certainly wouldn't remember, but which shows us a glimpse of what was and what might have been... This is Michael Jackson at about the age of 18, dancing with tap legends the Nicholas Brothers...
Rest in peace, Michael Jackson, you poor, tortured soul.
because there really aren't many to tell.








