It's amazing to watch your kids grow up. It's more amazing when it happens in little more than a year.
Slightly over a year ago, Cory identified himself as a bass player. And so we got him a bass (an Ibanez that had retailed for over $600 and we got it for $80 on eBay, thank you very much!). And he fiddled around on it. But he really couldn't play. Yet.
Still there he was, out there calling himself a bass player. And so the high school band at church asked him to play. Uh-oh. He made some excuses. He stalled. And I started to get emails -- why wasn't Cory responding to the invitation?
So I asked him if perhaps he had inadvertently oversold his abilities as a bass player. Relief washed over his face as he responded, "Yes, that's what I did. I
inadvertently oversold my abilities."
We decided the only solution was for him to get his abilities up to the advertised level pronto. He had his first lesson coming up, and he went in telling his teacher that he had one week to learn enough to be able to muddle his way through a couple of songs with the high school band.
Apparently, he muddled through just fine. They asked him back on a regular basis. He had a few more lessons. And before we knew it, he had his audition for the rock & roll class (excuse me, "rhythm section workshop") at Harvard-Westlake. He had to play a solo, had to sight read a piece or play along with something. It was a real audition. We heard a lot of practicing behind the closed door of his room. Lee gave him a crash lesson in sight-reading. And we tucked his bass in the trunk and drove off to the audition.
Apparently, he muddled through again. He told the teachers he was auditioning for that he'd only had five lessons. "You could've fooled me," was the response. Five bass players auditioned for the class. Two got in. One was Cory. (And they invited him to take up the upright bass as well and play with the orchestra, bypassing the usually required Beginning Strings class. He passed, but that was a pretty cool invite.)
So school began, with Cory schlepping his bass back and forth to school every other day, and taking Electronic Music (composition and music theory) on the days he wasn't in rhythm section. He kept playing with the high school band at church. Guys from school came over periodically to jam. We'd find him sitting in front of the computer, headphones on, bass unplugged, playing along to music videos.

And then last weekend our church had its regular Student Sunday, where students take part in the service. They usher and greet, and whatnot. But Cory wasn't asked to usher. He was asked to play with the band. Not the high school band. The real band, which is composed of, well, real musicians. The kind of musicians who make a living as musicians, for the most part.
Two other students were asked to sit in as well. One was a graduating senior off to the Berklee College of Music in the fall as a voice major. The other was a graduating senior off to Vanderbilt as a music composition major. And when they came to intro Cory, the leader of the band said, "And Cory's what, a junior? A senior?" Cory hemmed and hawed and finally said, "Something like that." I think he didn't want to admit he's a freshman. And I'm not sure they would have believed him.
He played great, by the way. A real pro. The regular bass player told us he's gonna start worrying about being replaced.
Years slide into one another as our kids grow up. Cutting with rounded scissors slides into cutting with sharp scissors. Picture books slide into chapter books slide into young adult literature. Latin I slides into Latin II, algebra slides into geometry slides into calculus. We try to mark transitions with graduations and promotions, but they seem somewhat arbitrary at times.
But sometimes you get a moment when you realize something has changed. A new chapter has opened. You blink, and suddenly the boy who was worried he'd look foolish because he didn't know what he was doing actually
does know what he's doing and then some, and he's up there playing with the pros, doing something you could never have taught him. And all you had to do with it was to pay for a half dozen lessons and take a few photos and try not to embarrass him by beaming with pride too obviously.
I have a feeling these moments of startled revelation will be coming at me more and more frequently in the next few years. "Seedlings turn overnight to sunflowers, blossoming even as we gaze..."
And in the meantime, if anyone needs a bass player for a gig, well, I can make a recommendation.